OUCH! QUICK RELATIONSHIP REPAIR TIPS
Rev. George McLaird
If communicating with your most intimate Partner has deteriorated or taken a wrong turn (poor, clumsy, blaming, or vicious) you are about to read a potentially- perfect-method (tip/technique) for turning your communication choices around to become healthy, kind, and thoughtful.
However, if you are narcissistic, pushy, dominating, rude, or crude you may find this tip/technique to be beyond your capabilities. This may be so confrontational to your way of being you’re going to pass and stop reading now.
But before you go, you owe it to yourself to take a look at the technique before you leap.
Here the term “Partner” is inclusive and means all human relationships of any description.
A GUIDE FOR SPIRITUAL LIVING
Rev. George McLaird
Religions come in predetermined packages. They come with an approved name for the creator of existence, the name of their superstar, their all-star team, their approved beliefs, songs, and, in some cases, dress codes and dietary requirements. In this book I present a wide variety of alternatives if you are uncomfortable with or frustrated by your present religious experience or spiritual condition, or if you have no idea where to begin searching for your own personal spiritual path. A Guide for Spiritual Living offers a plethora of suggestions for developing a path that fits you to a T.
I HEAR YOU'RE AFRAID OF DYING
Rev. George McLaird
Preparing for one’s own death and dying or for anyone we love is one of the most traumatic events we will ever experience. Even the thought of it can bring on fear so deeply embedded it can be debilitating or nearly so. With all of our heart we want to avoid death in its many forms happening as long as possible. Some refuse to allow themselves to dwell on this and never say a single word about it. They suffer alone. Don’t be one of them.
THE MARRIAGE MAZE
George McLaird, M. Div.
The Marriage Maze contains 50 chapters covering the vast majority of issues experienced by most married couples. It is utilized best when both people read a chapter and discuss it before moving to the next chapter. This is a workbook. Fill in all of your answers in the book itself rather than having a separate notebook.
I HEAR YOU'RE ENGAGED
Rev. George McLaird
The stages of attraction, infatuation and deeply felt love often cause emotional-overwhelm and distorts our view through unrealistically optimistic eyes. Falling in love, getting married, raising a family and living one's entire life with him/her is one of the most natural things we want to do.
Here’s a suggestion. "Congratulations on your engagement or intended engagement! But stop, look and listen, one more time, before crossing this street.
I HEAR YOU'RE CONTEMPLATING DIVORCE
George McLaird, M. Div.
This book is a step by step process for asking one's self questions such as, Am I Rushing? Am I Ready? Am I Divorcing the Right Person?
Once truthful answers are giving to these and other questions, one can make a realistic assessment of their situation and move toward their next step. The next step may be to hire a lawyer or engage in additional marital/family counseling.
CANCER: FROM TEARS TO TRIUMPH
Rev. George McLaird
All proceeds from this book go to the Teddy Bear Project which assists families who have a child with cancer. Viki Winterton assembled 32 authors who have had intimate contact with the ugly disease - Cancer. I was fortunate to be one of them.
Each Author to the subject with expertise because they have had a close encounter with cancer. Some write wrenching stories about loved ones and the devastation they have experienced. Others are ‘professionals’ who have walked step by step with their patients/clients. Others have taken the journey with parents/siblings/friends/loved ones. No matter how or when you have been unfortunate enough to experience cancer in some way, you will find Viki’s volume packed with down to earth suggestions and directions that will make your way clearer as you tread this path.
MY BIG IDEA BOOK
George McLaird, M. Div.
A portion of the proceeds from this book have been donated to SupportingOurServicemen.com.
Your journal is your sacred place. Here you can capture and foster your most creative thoughts and inspired ideas. 188 of the finest minds and biggest hearts in the world of empowerment come together in this book to encourage you daily to realize your greatest vision.
My Big Idea Book — the most recent in the series of #1 International Best-Selling books from Expert Insights Publishing — is an incredible wellspring for readers looking for daily support and encouragement to achieve business and personal success in today’s unpredictable world. There is so much power in the written word. Capture yours here for your personal enrichment, and share this journal with others to encourage their greatness.
Recommended Reading Of Books Written
By My Close Friends
Several of my friends are authors. Their books cover a wide range of topics. Please read reviews or excerpts to see if the subject is of interest to you.
8 WAYS OF WELLBEING FOR RECOVERING PEOPLE
Sonee Weedn, PhD.
Therapeutic Lifestyle Changes (TLCs) identified in 8 Ways to Wellbeing for Recovering People are an under-utilized, but profoundly effective treatment for optimizing mental health and supporting recovery from most psychiatric disorders, such as addiction, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and trauma.
Based on the exhaustive research of Roger Walsh, M.D., Ph.D., at the University of CA at Irvine, these TLCs described and amplified in this workbook, serve as core curriculum, a true blueprint for lifestyle enhancement, to support and optimize mental health throughout the course of our lifetimes. It is especially designed to be used by those in recovery from addictions of any kind, to support and enhance good clinical care. TLCs can help with addiction and reduce the risk of relapse. This is a well thought out road map towards positive change that supports recovery on many levels.
MAKING ADVANCES: A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE FOR TREATING FEMALE SEX AND LOVE ADDICTS
Sonee Weedn, PhD.
Of all the addictions, sex and love additions have been the least understood, the last treated. And, when the lens has landed, it has focused on men, not women. But, many women suffer, too; and their varieties of sex and love addiction can produce horrifying and highly complex problems for them, their families and those who love them.
This book makes the female journey to recovery far less confusing and terrifying. It's a "must read" for therapists, their clients, and all the rest of us who probably know a woman who needs real help.
MANY BLESSINGS: A TAPESTRY OF ACCOMPLISHED AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN
Sonee Weedn, PhD.
African American women are resilient and resourceful. They have frequently faced and overcome oppressive circumstances in order to make significant contributions to the fabric of contemporary American society. CA psychologist, Dr. Sonnee Weedn, wanted to know what it was about these women that allowed them to overcome the hindrances of racism, both overt and internalized, as well as sexism, which can undermine the success of any woman.
In this deeply personal book, Dr. Weedn shares her journey of discovery, illustrated by interviews with thirty accomplished African American women. The seven characteristic strengths of these women serve as a blueprint for success in anyone's life, regardless of ethnicity. Their advice is timely and valuable.
THROUGH THE DARK FOREST
Carolyn Conger, PhD.
“A priceless gift for anyone facing suffering, or seeking a trusted guide on the path toward wholeness, authenticity, and radical transformation.”
--Harriet Lerner, PhD, author of The Dance of Anger andThe Dance of Connection
“The vast human wisdom and transformational energies found in this profoundly compassionate book reveal how the end-game of our lives can be a time of magnificent surrender and enlightenment, if we wish it to be.”
--Richard Chamberlain, actor and New York Times bestselling author of Shattered Love
YOU'RE A GENIUS AND I CAN PROVE IT
Kimberly Kassner
For teens and parents: Discover how parents and their children learn best—by playing to their strengths-- and how to master the game of school and of life! It’s written in conversational style with humor and cartoons to support the tools, techniques and processes given to help each reader create their uniquely successful learning system.
A VIEW FROM THE ZOO
Gary Richmond
This is a collection of 32 stories about the incredible animals at the L.A. Zoo. They are exciting, suspenseful, humorous and just plain fun. The book is a best seller and received great reviews across the board. It was an award winning book and continues to have an enthusiastic following.
BUDDHISM: A CONCISE INTRODUCTION
Phillip Novak
Going well beyond the masterful presentationof Buddhism in the bestselling The World's Religions, Huston Smith and his premier student Philip Novak offer an expert, contemporary, yet highly readable and incisive guide to the heart of this vibrantly diverse and rapidly growing tradition, one that has an increasing presence and importance on the American scene. Smith is universally regarded as the leading authority on the world's religious traditions, and Novak is an award-winning professor of world religions and a Buddhist practitioner immersed in the contemporary worlds of American and Asian Buddhism.
THE VISION OF NIETZSCHE
Phillip Novak
God is dead, there are no universal truths, no morality. We stand alone in the universe... Nietzsche conjured up nihilism, embraced it, then discovered that this philosophy was untenable. But out of his struggle emerged his great redemptive vision - the will to power of the Superman.
This powerful book presents an introduction to Nietzsche's life, while carefully selected excerpts from his writings show the development of his thinking. Finally Novak compares Nietzsche's ideal of the Superman with Buddhism's tried and tested notion of the Bodhisattva.
THE INNER JOURNEY: VIEWS FROM THE BUDDHIST TRADITION
Phillip Novak
With The Inner Journey, Philip Novak, editor of The World’s Wisdom and coauthor of Buddhism, a Concise Introduction, selects the best work from the Buddhist tradition to be found within Parabola’s 30 years of archives. The contributors, broad and experienced, range from H. H. the Dalai Lama and Robert Thurman to Pema Chodran and Thict Nhat Hanh. Incisive interviews and cogent essays are informed by poetry and folklore. A lavish, full-color, 16-page set of plates brilliantly conveys the rich variety within the tradition. From full works of great intricacy to passages of pure insight, the collection spans the greatest trends within Buddhism.
THE WORLD'S WISDOM: SACRED TEXTS OF THE WORLD'S RELIGIONS
Phillip Novak
A world Bible for our time from Buddhist, Hindu, Confucian, Taoist, Jewish, Christian, Islamic, and primal religion sources!
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In this perfect companion to Huston Smith's bestselling The World's Wisdom, Philip Novak distills the most powerful and elegant expressions of the wisdom of humankind. Authentic, poetic translations of key texts are coupled with insightful introductions and "grace notes."
In Loving Memory of Jerry Jampolsky, M.D. who died January 2021
The boy who was a shy underachiever with a learning disability grew up to be a world-renowned, UC Berkeley/Stanford-educated child and adult psychiatrist. His Centers for Attitudinal Healing (with origins in Tiburon, Sausalito and Oakland), where he worked with children who had life-threatening illnesses, once merited an award-winning show segment from Morley Safer of 60 Minutes. When Jampolsky extended this groundbreaking therapy to parents and siblings, his model went global. He even gave Oprah her famous “aha” moment on forgiveness. Attitudinal Healing International is now in 37 countries on six continents, continuing to offer free services to individuals, families, and communities. Jerry and Dr. Diane Cirincione-Jampolsky, his wife and partner of 40 years and Executive Director of AHI, have lived on a Sausalito houseboat named SPIRIT since 2002
THE "OH SHIT" FACTOR: WASTE MANAGEMENT FOR OUR MINDS
Jerry Jampolsky
Edgy, humorous, informative and life changing, this book challenges what we know about what we put into our minds and what comes out of our mouths. The word “sh*t” is used as a metaphor for the toxic thoughts we put into our heads. This can result, says Jampolsky, in constipation of the mind which can eventually cause verbal diarrhea! What we put into our minds can be more important than the food we put into our mouths. Cleaning out our minds can be just as important as cleaning our teeth. This book is about spiritual transformation in which forgiveness is stated to be the best treatment for “waste management” of our minds and relieving mind constipation.
OUT OF DARKNESS INTO THE LIGHT: A JOURNEY OF INNER HEALING
Jerry Jampolsky
A compelling account of the journey from severe depression, guilt, and near alcoholism to a true healing of the mind and spirit—from a bestselling author and noted psychiatrist
"If there is hope for one like me, who thought that he was beyond all help, and who believed he had more guilt, more shame, and a greater feeling of inadequacy than anyone else in the world, then rest assured that there is hope for you."
Millions of men and women have had their lives transformed by Dr. Gerald Jampolsky's pioneering work in the field of attitudinal healing and by his bestsellers Love Is Letting Go of Fear, Goodbye to Guilt, and Teach Only Love. In his most important book, Dr. Jampolsky tells his own deeply moving story of inner struggle and personal transformation.
As we share the story of his passage from sorrow to joy, Dr. Jampolsky sheds new light on the path to personal happiness, on letting go of fear and guilt, and on escaping the "Fifty Ego Defenses" that keep us in darkness. Here is a book of advice and inspiration from a man who has been there and back—a road map to guide you to a life of peace, fulfillment, and lasting happiness.
"A life-enhancing book written from the only perspective Gerry Jampolsky knows—total honesty and unconditional love. I loved every page."—Wayne Dyer, author of Your Erroneous Zones
TEACH ONLY LOVE: THE TWELVE PRINCIPLES OF ATTITUDINAL HEALING
Jerry Jampolsky
In 1975, Jerry Jampolsky cofounded the Center for Attitudinal Healing in Tiburon, California, where people with life-threatening illnesses practice peace of mind as an instrument of transformation. Based on the healing power of love and forgiveness, the 12 principles developed at the center, and explained in this book, embrace the idea that total giving and total acceptance are crucial to the healing process and that attitudinal healing can lead to harmony, joy, and life without fear.
LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR
Jerry Jampolsky
After a quarter century, LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR is still one of the most widely read and best-loved books on personal transformation and has become a classic all over the world. This helpful and hopeful little guide is comprised of twelve carefully crafted lessons that are designed to help us let go of the past and stay focused on the present as we step confidently toward the future. Renowned founder and teacher of Attitudinal Healing, Dr. Gerald Jampolsky reminds us that the only impediments to the life we yearn for are the limitations imposed on us by our own minds. Revealing our true selves, the essence of which is love, is a matter of releasing those limited and limiting thoughts. LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR has guided millions of readers toward self-healing with this deeply powerful yet profoundly simple message. Embrace it with an open mind and an open heart and let it guide you to a life in which fear, doubt, and negativity are replaced with optimism, joy, and love.
LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR, THIRD EDITION
Jerry Jampolsky
After more than thirty years, Love Is Letting of Fear continues to be among the most widely read and best-loved classics on personal transformation. Both helpful and hopeful, this little gem of a guide offers twelve lessons to help us let go of the past and stay focused on the present as we step confidently toward the future.
Renowned all over the world as the founder of Attitudinal Healing, Dr. Gerald Jampolsky reminds us that the impediments to the life we long for are nothing more than the limitations imposed on us by our own minds. Revealing our true selves, the essence of which is love, is ultimately a matter of releasing those limited--and limiting--thoughts and setting our minds free.
Love Is Letting of Fear has guided millions of readers along the path of self-healing with its deeply powerful yet profoundly humble message. Embrace it with an open mind and a willing heart and let it guide you to a life in which negativity, doubt, and fear are replaced with optimism, joy, and love.
GOOD-BYE TO GUILD: RELEASING FEAR THROUGH FORGIVENESS
Jerry Jampolsky
"I know that the thousands all over the world who love Jerry and whose lives have been enhanced by his message are eagerly looking forward to this new book. They have a treat in store. In clear and beautiful prose Jerry tells us that peace is a conscious choice. Saying good-bye to guilt is a vital step in making that choice."--from the Foreword by John Denver.
Love is where there is no fear. Fear is where there is no love. In our age of anxieties, most of us live by complex expectations about what we should achieve, how we should act, and how others should treat us. As a result, we are victimized by guilt and fear--guilt because our standards haven't been met in the past, fear that they won't be met in the future. Inevitable, these negative emotions wreak havoc on our personal relationships, self -esteem, and peace of mind. But what if we let go of our fear and guilt? The transformation can be miraculous, says world famous psychiatrist and author Gerald G. Jampolsky. The secret lies in healthy perception of yourself. Dr. Jampolsky points the way through fourteen lessons that can change your life. These lessons show: How to quiet the ego-self that creates fear and guilt. How to accept genuine love and give it away. How to stop judging others, thereby to stop judging yourself. How to listen to your inner voice to receive support and guidance. How to forgive others so that loneliness and separation become illusions of the past. And much more. Here is a book for everyone who seeks the key to life's most satisfying reward. A book that tells you how to throw off the burdens of the past, and learn what it can mean to truly love.
FORGIVENESS: THE GREATEST HEALER OF ALL
Jerry Jampolsky
Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All is written in simple, down-to-earth language. It explains why so many of us find it difficult to forgive and why holding on to grievances is really a decision to suffer. The book describes what causes us to be unforgiving and how our minds work to justify this. It goes on to point out the toxic side effects of being unforgiving and the havoc it can play on our bodies and on our lives. But above all, it leads us to the vast benefits of forgiving. The author shares powerful stories that open our hearts to the miracles which can take place when we truly believe that no one needs to be excluded from our love. Sprinkled throughout the book are Forgiveness Reminders that may be used as daily affirmations supporting a new life free of past grievances.
CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione
"Most of us want to change the world, but only a few of us are willing to change our own minds!" Yet there is a shift taking place in the world, where more and more people are recognizing that it is our own thoughts and attitudes that determine how we look at the world and, ultimately, what we see. This book is for people of all ages, religions, and cultures who have a desire and a willingness to change the thoughts in their minds
AGING WITH ATTITUDE
Jerry Jampolsky and Ciane Cirincione
Written by bestselling authors Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., and Diane Cirincione, Ph.D, this book will change your mind about aging. It offers inspiring new perceptions for living the second half of your life with inner peace, happiness, and tranquility, regardless of what may be happening to your body and mind. In these pages you’ll discover how your fears about aging are reversible, and how you can live in a consciousness of giving, making forgiveness and love a way of life. Drawing from the principles of Attitudinal Healing, this upbeat, positive book conveys simple but powerful guidelines for aging with grace, openness, and a childlike sense of wonder. Heartfelt stories about people in their 70s, 80s and beyond demonstrate how others have applied these boundless gifts, illustrating the many ways Attitudinal Healing can transform each of our lives and the lives of those around us. Praised by readers from 30 to 90-plus years of age, this is a must read for everyone who has begun to think about aging.
FINDING OUR WAY HOME: HEARTWARMING STORIES THAT IGNITE OUR SPIRITUAL CORE
Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione
In a deeply heartfelt way, Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione share stories of their spiritual journey, detours they’ve taken, and people who have impacted them along their life trail. Using the Hawaiian tradition of “talking story,” Jerry and Diane demonstrate the daily application of spiritual principles and practical spirituality. Individually and together, they weave their journey for us as it continues to evolve from the influences around them. They inspire us to embrace and share our own stories of peaks and valleys that make up our journeys.
The authors’ honest and vulnerable style of communicating continues to reveal their life purposes in the choices they make and the lessons they’ve learned. “Each day still provides challenges and circumstances that call to those parts of us that want to judge others or ourselves,” they write. “What is different now is that we more quickly recognize when we’re lost and the choice we have to return to the path of unconditional love. Once we remember that our purpose is service and helping others, as well as letting go of our judgments and grievances by practicing forgiveness, the path is easier, the direction clearer, and the destination of peace achievable.”
A MINI COURSE FOR LIFE
Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione
A Mini Course for Life offers you new choices for dealing with old challenges and presents amazingly adaptable lessons for solving problems and for whatever life sends your way. The selected concepts within the Mini Course are tried and tested and have been used with great success for over 30 years. They work on many levels from deeply personal to interpersonal and from situational to global. At all levels this course provides a profound new way of looking at the world. Using daily lesson cards included with the book, this course can be done individually or with another person. It will inspire you to be better at whom you are, happier in how you think, more passionate with what you do and more at peace with every part of your life.